Momoa pops open a Guinness and takes a long swallow. “You know, I met my wife over a pint of Guinness,” he says. “I knew it was love when she ordered it first.”
Right. His wife. That would be Lisa Bonet, former child star of The Cosby Show, widely (and, trust me, credibly) considered one of the most beautiful people alive, and whom I’d spotted walking along the yard’s periphery in a long, flowing skirt and cutoff T-shirt. The pair have been together since 2004, when a mutual friend introduced them at a jazz club. But Momoa’s attachment to Bonet goes back further, to when he first saw her on TV at the age of 8. He remembers thinking, “I’m going to stalk you for the rest of your life, and I’m going to get you,” he told James Corden on The Late Late Show last year.
“If I see something I love, I want to learn everything about it. There are just so many things I want to do.”
I understand grand, public proclamations of love, I tell him, but what about their day-to- day relationship? Say, Tuesdays.
“I get in trouble just like any other dumb fucking male,” Momoa says. “We love each other, have an amazing family together, but a relationship is work.” He asks me how long I’ve been with my partner. Twelve years, I tell him. About the same for him, he says, and reflects on how much a person can change over such a long period. “That poor woman met me when I was 26,” Momoa says. “I was a maniac. I wanted to do all of these things, but I didn’t have an outlet, so I would just destroy. She’s stuck with me through too many me’s.”
DESPITE HIS EXOTIC LOOKS, Momoa spent his childhood in Norwalk, Iowa, a town of about 9,000 outside of Des Moines. He was born in Honolulu, son of a Hawaiian father and Midwestern mother. But his parents split when Momoa was young, and his mom took him back to her hometown. “I grew up where everyone was a wrestler or football player, and I was the skateboarder, an outcast,” Momoa says. He spent summers with his father on Oahu, but he was an outsider there, as well. “I wasn’t really accepted as a Hawaiian,” he says.